Couples & Relationship Counseling

Those who are closest to us are also those who can have the most power to hurt and challenge us. These are also the relationships where we can learn and grow the most.

You may love one another deeply and still find yourselves caught in the same painful conversations. One person may pursue while the other withdraws, or small disagreements may quickly become criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, or distance. You may keep trying to communicate differently, only to find yourselves repeating the same pattern when emotions run high.

Perhaps something significant has shaken the relationship, such as betrayal or broken trust, a major life transition, differences in culture or family expectations, fading intimacy, or uncertainty about whether a relationship can continue.

In couples & relationship counseling, I help create a safe, nonjudgmental space where loved ones can slow down, feel heard, and explore what lies beneath the surface of recurring tensions. Together, we work to understand and unravel accumulated hurts and disappointments, respond to one another with greater curiosity, honesty, and care, and transform conflict into opportunities for deeper connection and growth.

In addition to intimate partners, I also work with adult family dyads, such as parents and adult children or adult siblings, who are seeking support with communication, relationship repair, or navigating important transitions together.

Together, we may work on:

  • Improving communication and learning to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness

  • Understanding and changing recurring cycles of conflict, withdrawal, pursuit, or disconnection

  • Navigating differences in values, culture, family expectations, and/or life goals

  • Navigating major life transitions and changes in your relationship

  • Rebuilding trust after betrayal, hurt, or periods of disconnection

  • Rekindling intimacy, closeness, friendship, and joy

  • Making more intentional decisions about the future of your relationship

I have particular passion and experience working with intercultural, mixed immigration status, Asian, and BIPOC couples, including partners navigating differences in culture, identity, family expectations, values, and ideas about relationships and commitment.

What kind of relationship support is right for us?

Couples therapy is generally most helpful when both partners are willing to work on the relationship, even if you are uncertain about where the process will lead.

If one partner is seriously considering leaving while the other wants to repair the relationship, discernment counseling may be a better place to start.

If you have already decided to separate, intentional separation & divorce counseling may be more appropriate.

You do not need to determine this perfectly on your own before reaching out. We can talk together about where each of you stand and what kind of support makes the most sense.

My Integrative Approach & Background

  • Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) — supporting couples in recognizing the cycles that keep them stuck, softening patterns of defensiveness or withdrawal, and reaching for one another with more vulnerability, care, and emotional safety.

  • Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) — helping each person develop greater awareness of the emotions, needs, and protective responses that shape how they relate to one another, creating more space for presence and connection.

  • The Gottman Method — helping intimate partners strengthen communication and friendship, navigate conflict more constructively, and deepen fondness and connection.

  • Solution-Focused Therapy — helping people stay forward-looking, clarify shared goals, recognize existing strengths, and identify small, practical steps toward change.

  • Restorative Justice Practices — informing how I work with repair, accountability, and rebuilding trust when harm has occurred.

  • Mediation & Non-Violent Communication — drawing on my background in mediation and conflict resolution to help people de-escalate conflict, express underlying needs, navigate differences more constructively, and approach difficult conversations with greater clarity and care.

My personalized approach focuses on both healing and growth. I aim to meet you where you are, attend to the challenges your relationship faces now, while helping you develop the skills and awareness needed to create a more intentional and connected future together.

Practical Details

  • Format: Couples therapy intakes are generally 90 minutes. Subsequent session length and frequency is tailored to your relationship and goals.

  • Location: Available via telehealth throughout Massachusetts, Nevada, and Vermont, with limited in-person sessions available by advance arrangement in Harvard Square, Cambridge.

  • Read more about fees and other logistics here.